Stella’s Snow

Posted on December 13th, 2013

There are not many things that Stella disliked. In fact, the only two that I can think of is that she was uncomfortable with attention directed at her (a trait that I admittedly lack,) and she hated when people were sad.

dogSo the funeral would have upset her since so many sad people came together in her name.

But it was necessary, and I think she would have agreed that it was a fitting and proper way of saying goodbye.

The shloshim (end of thirty days of mourning) is a different story. There were many options of things we could do publicly. But all of them would have involved lots of sad people talking about Stella.

So there is no doubt in my mind, that from her place in heaven she arranged one of the biggest snow storms to ever hit Israel and the Gush. I can see her now, with a smile on her face. She is laughing.

StellasmilingShe is saying:

“Ha! So you think you’re going to make a big ceremony about me where everyone will cry? Just you try and get to the cemetery or even have people come to the house. Not gonna happen. Now go put your boots on and play in the snow.”

Yes, this is the way I like to think of her now. Free from pain and keeping an eye on all of us.

I know her. Better than anyone in the world. And I know that she does not want us to be overcome by grief. She told me many times that she was not afraid of dying but that she was worried about how hard her passing was going to be on us. She told me flat out that if she would have any way to help us after she died, she would. But that we were going to also have to find a way to adjust to life without her.

So even though I won’t always succeed, that’s how I am going to (try and ) move on.

And if she can send a snow storm of these proportions, I know that she will try to help us avoid the sadness any way she can.

Who knows what she is cooking up for us next.

Yarden Frankl, Neve Daniel

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  1. linda dempster says:

    Well put Yarden. Yes Stella would want you to remember and focus on all the wonderful things she brought in to your life and the kids. She is right there next to you smiling and pushing you on. G-d Bless you.

  2. rutimizrachi says:

    This was one of your most beautiful posts yet. Thank you. Now it will be easier to picture Stella laughing joyfully, rather than focusing so much on feelings of loss. Shabbat shalom u’mevorach.

    Love from Ruti and Avi and the boys

  3. Iris says:

    I thought Stella had something to do with this. thanks for confirming.
    Bailey must be having a blast.

  4. Joshua Frankl says:

    wonderful! Shabbat Shlom to you all of you from all of us! The Jersey Frankls

  5. Adina W says:

    Shabbat shalom.

  6. Bill Landau says:

    Love it!

    One of these days we have to talk about Sheila and Stella.

    Still the 10th of Tevet here, but Shabbat there, so Shavua Tov.

  7. Hana says:

    ROFL! Full marks, Stella. 🙂

  8. Adina says:

    Beautiful post. thanks for the best snow day ever, our joy is in her merit.

  9. Chava'le says:

    Wow Yarden, good stuff.
    So encouraging, so beautiful, so inspiring (ugh so cliche but true!) and so fantastic.
    I love what Stella has done for you, for her family and for all of us.
    Never met any of you (to the best of my knowledge), but she’s been part of my life for some years now and I hope I can live up to what that means.

  10. genendy says:

    Beautiful stuff! Your writing about Stella and the snow:) I agree that she definitely had something to do with it.